The Confidence of Coaching

How many coaches can you think of that lack self-confidence? How many coaches do you know that publicly show signs of doubt or despair? Not many.

Coaching is a profession built on confidence. As a coach, you have to have confidence in your players, your staff and your team to get the job done every night. You have to have the confidence in yourself to execute your job to the highest level at every opportunity. The confidence that you are doing what is right by everyone involved in your program at any given moment.

Where does this confidence come from? Ultimately, I believe it comes from making decisions, making mistakes and learning from your experiences. Confidence comes from the time spent honing your craft and developing yourself professionally. It builds from those around us – our co-workers, supervisors and mentors. It also comes from within; our own belief in ourself and our ability to overcome obstacles because we have done it in the past.

Does this mean that coaches never lack self-confidence? Absolutely not. I guarantee that anyone who has ever coached has experienced many moments of self-doubt and uncertainty. The confidence you see from coaches doesn’t rule out doubt, it is a reflection of their ability to overcome the negativity and failure and believe in their ability to succeed above all else.

Struggling with confidence? Any good coach has been there. It’s not about never experiencing failure and doubt, it’s about your ability to overcome those thoughts and move ahead with a self-belief stronger than ever.

Confidence comes from having “been there and done that” and sometims you have to “fake it till you make it,” but as the leader of a program, the confidence you exude rubs off on all of the lives you touch on a regular basis. Coach with confidence, knowing you will make the best decision you can with the information you have, using your experience as a guide.


You Never Know…

Every person says thousands of words and has thousands of thoughts every single day. Many are good, some are bad, and most are neutral or action based.

Every day, there are one or two words or phrases that we utter that will change someones life. It might be something positive or negative. It may carry very little meaning or weight to you personally. It might seem like an afterthought or something that you didn’t even notice you were saying. But it may make all the difference in the world to someone else.

I experienced a moment like this the other day. One was an affirming comment made off the cuff by a superior and a mentor. It is very likely that the person saying it to me had no idea the true ramifications of their comment, but it sent my confidence skyrocketing and increased my self-belief tenfold.

You never know whose life you might impact with your words. Choose them wisely and never hesitate to build someone up. Confident people have the ability to outperform expectations on a regular basis. Empower those around you and watch their success grow.

Seth Godin: Confidence is a Choice

This is from Seth Godin’s Blog. A great read if you haven’t seen it yet. You can find this post and more here:

Confidence is a choice, not a symptom

The batter has already hit two home runs. When he gets up to bat for the third time, his confidence is running high…

It’s easy to feel confident when we’re on a roll, when the cards are going our way, or we’re closing sales right and left. This symptomatic confidence, one built on a recent series of successes, isn’t particularly difficult to accomplish or useful.

Effective confidence comes from within, it’s not the result of external events. The confident salesperson is likely to close more sales. The confident violinist expresses more of the music. The confident leader points us to the places we want (and need) to go.

You succeed because you’ve chosen to be confident. It’s not really useful to require yourself to be successful before you’re able to become confident.

Seth Godin: Avoiding Fear

A fantastic post by Seth Godin. We hate fear so much that we avoid situations that will even trigger the thought of fear. Rather than avoid fear, attack it. I believe that we are more likely to be successful in these situations than we think we can be. Attacking fear will build confidence (success in the face of believed failure).